a few thoughts...

I've been alone -- defined as not in a relationship -- for about two and a half years now. It's ok.....I date....but I've been alone -- defined as having no-one to share thoughts, etc. with -- while I was in relationships. One needs to decide how -- in life -- to be "alone" with oneself. It's a tough question. And not easy to answer. I think at the heart of it.....and after much reflection with a dash of therapy...it comes down to how honest you can be with yourself. Can one admit what you know in your head? What's in your heart? To yourself? Or, do a few good rationalizations get you through the day? Your day.
My life is full. My daughters are my soul and a huge facet of my life. My work/job is something I really love and look forward to going to every day. I can't imagine my life without it. Both my daughters and my work are sources of great pride. My ex-, and my sister, are amazing women. Full of strength and smart opinions that I trust. My friends are pretty cool. I depend on them for much.
But still, I'm alone. I try to learn how to deal with the aloneness every day. It isn't emptiness. Don't be confused. It's being alone. I used to think that self discovery, or greater self knowledge, would remedy that. And the self knowledge is absolutely essential. Critical even. But I don't think it removes the aloneness. I think that's a myth we're sold.
I really think it comes down to what we opereate from. Either fear or love. I've chosen love.
I think the aloneness is just part of the deal in a randomly assorting universe.